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Divorce Mediation Group

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Location: Southern California
Members: 8
Latest Activity: Feb 10, 2014

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Co-Mediating Divorce Cases

I have found co-mediating divorce cases to be extremely helpful. Clients get the benefit of both legal and psychological expertise. While mediation is not therapy, couples do have an opportunity to…Continue

Started by Kathy Memel, Ph.D, MFT Oct 20, 2009.

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Comment by Delilah Knox Rios on February 10, 2014 at 4:56pm

I have been very fortunate to have a great co-mediator, Patrick Healey, from Irvine, who is a male, and an mft. While I was working on numbers with one client, he was getting the other settlement ready in an emotional sense, so that when the joint session came started everyone was on board. I also believe that gender balance is not necessary either in Mediation or in Collaborative Law.  True professionals transcend gender.

Comment by Arianna Jeret on January 8, 2014 at 7:14pm

I co-mediated divorce cases for about 2 years with another female mediator.  As opposed to gender balance as an issue, she brought her knowledge and perspective as an attorney to the table, and I came to the table with a very different frame of reference as a mental health professional.  I feel rather strongly that gender balance in co-mediation is a myth.  A good mediator is a good mediator, and neutrality should include gender-blindness. In any divorce case the mediator can only be the same gender as one party, right?  Sometimes the husband may have a concern about a female mediator, and honestly, sometimes the wife may.  I find that by holding individual sessions with each spouse prior to the first joint session, I am able to bond with each separately and earn their trust.  The gender issue disappears.

Comment by Kym Adams Director of CEDRS on October 20, 2009 at 10:41pm
I agree Kathy, I have co-mediated with a male attorney mediator and if has been very helpful. It adds a balance in the session. I don't co-mediate all the time but, only if needed. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Comment by Kym Adams Director of CEDRS on October 1, 2009 at 9:16pm
Question... has anyone ever co-mediated a divorce case? The reason why I am asking is because as I am mediating more and more disso cases. I have observed some patterns. I try to interview each case (pro-bono) prior. This process has helped me greatly. However, I have noticed that some (not all) of the disso cases would benefit from the same balance in the room. What I mean by that is having a male and female mediator. I have interviewed a couple male attorney mediators to co-mediate with me but, I have found it to be a difficult process. I want to find that perfect male and female mediator balance (match). Maybe, I have high standards?? That is why I am asking the more seasoned mediators in this group their opinion. I am taking the first giant step forward Tuesday and co-mediating with another. I hope I made the right decision and if it works I can see much potential for these types of cases. Can anyone share some thoughts with me please?

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