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Ken, Doug and Other Inspirational Mediators

I just returned from San Diego, where I spent most of last week at the annual convention of the Association for Dispute Resolution (ACR), a leading international group of arbitrators, mediators (commercial, family, community, etc), and peacemakers of all stripes. During the convention, I attended the Advanced Commercial Mediation Institute (ACMI), which was co-chaired by Jerome Allan Landau and Lee Jay Berman, two nationally renowned mediators who've…

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Added by Alec Wisner on October 18, 2011 at 10:30pm — No Comments

Welcome to the Rest of My Life

As I enter September, I feel as though a series of enormous weights has finally been lifted from my back; I hope that I've come to the end of my annus horribilus.…

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Added by Alec Wisner on September 1, 2010 at 5:30pm — No Comments

Why I Mediate

{the First in an occasional series of articles)

Since I began my mediation career just seven years ago, the question that I have…

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Added by Alec Wisner on February 8, 2010 at 10:00pm — 2 Comments

Uncertainty Drives Conflict Resolution

After many years of mediating litigated cases, I find that several threads continually recur. Among the most pervasive are the following:



· Attorneys believe that their analysis of the case is superior to that of their opponent

· Parties believe that the opposing party is insincere in his/her/its position

· Attorneys believe that the opposing witnesses will be surprised by certain evidence when directly confronted by it at trial

· Attorneys believe that they will be… Continue

Added by Alec Wisner on January 8, 2010 at 12:30pm — 2 Comments

Guest Blogger - Learn to Exercise Forgivness for Inner Strength

By Jane Hernishin



January 7, 10:43 AMLas Vegas Spiritual Pathways Examiner



The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.

~Mahatma Gandhi~



Starting off 2010 with the Virtue of Forgiveness can start a theme of healing in your life. The New Year is a time in which new beginnings are created. Reflecting back on the life lessons of 2009 and make a conscious decision to develop new habit, gain a higher level of mastery of this virtue and… Continue

Added by Alec Wisner on January 7, 2010 at 9:19pm — 2 Comments

Mediating Commercial Relationships

In mediating commercial disputes, once all of the frills are striped away, the dispute is very typically about money. The money can evince itself in a number of ways: one side paying the other cash; one side paying the other in specific performance; one side paying the other by refraining from competing, and so foregoing potential income, and so on. But, when the dust clears, the outcome is generally that money either does or doesn't change hands.



A second characteristic of such… Continue

Added by Alec Wisner on December 8, 2009 at 9:33pm — No Comments

The Joys of Giving

At this time of year, everybody, myself included writes paeans to the gratitude we're supposed to feel during this holiday season, and opines that gratitude should not be a seasonal thing. All true, of course. But I want to remind all of us in the business of resolving conflict to be joyous in all that we give -- and not just during the holidays.



For me, mediation acts as a conduit for my spiritual self. I harness a higher power that I do not regularly have, but that I am able to use… Continue

Added by Alec Wisner on December 3, 2009 at 3:52pm — No Comments

Moving the Goalposts 2 - The Blowback

In my last blog post, I described, at length, my personal methodology in crafting a mediator's proposal. Today, I'm going to consider what I call the "blowback," which is the downside of the method itself. It's something that's always on my front burner whenever I'm actively involved in "moving the goalposts."



There's an important ideological divide between facilitative and evaluative mediation, and it's one that I'm not entirely comfortable with. Let's examine the relative strengths… Continue

Added by Alec Wisner on November 8, 2009 at 5:00pm — 1 Comment

Moving the Goalposts - How To Craft a Mediator's Proposal

As a professional mediator, some of my most challenging and, yes, enjoyable moments have come when I've been able to go "under the line." That is to say, I've been able to do things to increase the size of the pie that was presented to me when I first entered the room. Perhaps I was able to assist the parties in re-establishing a business relationship that had gone south and ended in litigation. Or maybe I was able to provide a safe haven within which somebody was able to commence the process… Continue

Added by Alec Wisner on October 27, 2009 at 6:00pm — 1 Comment

Exhilaration and Disappointment

This morning, driving toward the University of Southern California campus, a lot of memories passed through my mind. I recalled attending the High School Debate Institute at USC, in the summer of 1965, prior to my senior year, and, as an unknown, being named second speaker, behind Roy Shults. I remembered how the lessons learned their got me to the 1966 state finals in extemporaneous speaking, where I finished 3rd, behind Roy Shults. I recall going to see a professor about something during my… Continue

Added by Alec Wisner on October 17, 2009 at 10:36pm — No Comments

Original Intent v Consistency, and the Constitutional right to privacy

For many years, I've been a bit upset about the "original intent" faction of the bar, and, more specifically, the progeny of the Federalist Society, who, as a result of 5 out of 7 of the most recent Presidential terms worth of conservative Republican court nominations, have come to dominate the Federal judiciary. For one thing, I've always thought it fantastic that these scholars were so apt at reading the minds of those who lived in a different time and such a different place.



I've… Continue

Added by Alec Wisner on October 14, 2009 at 8:00pm — 2 Comments

Making Settlements Last

A settlement is meaningless if it the parties don't respect it. Parties who don't respect settlements simply see breach as another cost of doing business, accepting further litigation if they see the overall result to be profitable. An all too common example may occur when a large small vendor is owed money by a large retailer. In a typical scenario, the vendor needs prompt payment to remain healthy and a continuous flow of sales and payments to remain in business. Knowing this, the vendor may… Continue

Added by Alec Wisner on October 6, 2009 at 10:19am — 1 Comment

Another Day, Another Marvin

Today, I conducted a very contentious six hour mediation. The rubric of the case was legal malpractice. The underlying case involved a suit by the live-in girlfriend of a deceased celebrity, under Marvin, for quasi-contractual recovery of as much as $2 million dollars. The malpractice itself was, as I saw it, clear. The damages, though, as is the usual case, were very slippery. The case was either going to be a home run for the Plaintiff, with a recovery of as much as half the proceeds from a… Continue

Added by Alec Wisner on September 21, 2009 at 6:30pm — 2 Comments

Mediation Happens When You Least Expect It

Because many of you reading this newsletter are professionals in the ADR field, professionals who utilize ADR and/or people who have a personal interest in mediation, it becomes habitual to think of mediation as a process by which a trained professional sits down with two disputing parties, typically in the framework of litigation, a divorce, or some sort of legal-based conflict, and tries to move the two sides to resolution without recourse to the lengthy, expensive and, often, anguishing… Continue

Added by Alec Wisner on September 10, 2009 at 5:57pm — 2 Comments

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Dear LA Mediators It’s time for our first meeting of 2016!  This year has already been moving at light speed, so we are going to meet Wednesday March 23rd, 2016 location to be announced, to discuss several interesting issues in mediation. Cocktail hour from 6pm to 6:30pm and meeting from 6:30pm to 8:30pm.  First, as I am going to be presenting at the upcoming International Academy of Mediators in March in New Zealand, I want to run through a part of that presentation that deals with working…See More
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